October 2024 Edition

FCC Quarterly Community Newsletter

Introduction

As the leaves transform into warm shades and the air takes on a refreshing crispness, we welcome the vibrant season of fall! It’s a time for reflection, gratitude, and coming together. In this edition, we celebrate our community spirit and share highlights from an exciting third quarter below!

Second Annual MELD Femdom Convention

The Second Annual MELD FemDom Convention was an even bigger success this year! Spanning ten days and featuring over 55 events, it offered an incredible lineup.

Attendees enjoyed a bustling shopping area with 25+ vendors, many of whom provided exclusive items and complimentary gifts, along with performances by over 30 talented community members, including live singers, DJs, facilitators & hosts.

The convention also featured educational workshops and valuable resources, creating a space where the community could come together to celebrate, learn, and showcase the essence of female dominance.

For more pictures of the event, visit our Flickr. Also, be sure to check out the event brochure online!

The MELD is brought to you by FCC, its community volunteers & allies. Without the generous support of time, energy and donations this event would not be possible. FCC is deeply grateful for our community's participation–a showcase of skills and talent that helps bring this event to life–for the community, by the community.

MELD 2024 Feedback Results

FCC appreciates everyone who has taken the time to provide feedback about their experience at The MELD. It has been overwhelmingly supportive–including the feedback that alerted us to areas where we can improve. We continue to learn so much from the community while hosting this event each year. Our goal is to continue to refine The MELD and make it an event where YOU feel represented. 

Here is a snapshot of the feedback responses for MELD 2024. 

Thank you MELD Diamond Sponsors!

Again, we want to extend our gratitude to venues who sponsored fundraising events for The MELD and/or participated in creating its success.

• Oubliette’s Freak Show in February was filled with sex-positive perverts flying their freak flags!

• The Realm -Femdom- sponsored the Spring Swing in April’s season of showers and made it rain!

• Le Salon sponsored a Summer Pony Play workshop that was fun and informative!

Interested in becoming a 

MELD 2025 Diamond Sponsor?

During the year, FCC invites our community to host several fundraising events benefiting the MELD annual femdom convention. In 2024, participating venues raised over L$50,000. 

Some benefits for becoming a MELD Diamond Sponsor include:

    - Participate at next year's annual event with the highest level of visibility through

• MELD 2025 event advertising (largest ad boards with Diamond Sponsor designation)

• MELD 2025 event brochure positioning (2 full-page advertisements in online and inworld brochures)

• MELD 2025 event voice announcements

    - All 2025 MELD sponsorship fees are waived 

Your venue hosts any event at MELD 2025 and automatically receives sponsorship status for free 

• Where most venue's sign-up to host an event and pay to have their event sponsored, your venue pays nothing.

• Your venue brings any existing event from your venue to MELD 2025 and receives sponsorship status for free 

• Where most venue's sign-up to host an event and pay to have their event sponsored, your venue pays nothing.

    - FCC Affiliates: receive Diamond Sponsor designation at your venue's ad board at the FCC inworld advertising kiosk. For more information on becoming an FCC affiliate, contact an FCC Admin (below).

Only 3 Diamond Sponsorship positions are available. If you are interested in having your venue host a Fetish Fantasy fundraising event for MELD 2025, contact a member of FCC's administration team (below). 

Get Involved

If you would like to be a part of shaping MELD 2025, make sure you’re a member of the inworld group Femdom Community Connections. Keep an eye on group notices for your MELD Committee invites which happen mid/late Spring 2025. 

MELD 2024 SPOTLIGHT

JaMee Sassafras sat down with MELD attendee Gabe (Zhantee Fallen) in a conversation about themselves and how the event inspired clarity around 'neutral spaces' within SL’s BDSM landscape.

Read the full interview here. 

Community Growth, FCC Welcomes New Affiliates!

We would like to welcome to FCC:

Femdom Venues

• House of Maharani

• The Cuckolding Wife

Femdom-Friendly BDSM Venues

• Angel Noir

• BDSM Lifestyle

• House Blackwood

Stores

• Alternating Current

Each Affiliate further enriches the tapestry of the kinky network. Please plan a visit and welcome them to our Affiliate community! 

Conclusion

This season we witnessed our community embrace a model of inclusion and collaboration at The MELD. At FCC, we are dedicated to continued growth in our service to the community. As part of this journey, we strive to uphold our vision to provide the Femdom Community a group to advertise social and educational events, and resources–to grow and support members in their lifestyle journey–building up individuals, relationships, the community and its venues. 

As we close out this quarter, we wish to offer our deepest gratitude for your continued support. Your participation is vital in helping us provide this resource and nurture the Femdom community. To our affiliates, members, and volunteers: We thank you!

FCC’s Open House, Saturday’s at 3:30pm SLT

On Saturday’s, you can find FCC Administrators and Ambassadors at the in-world Kiosk to answer any questions about the network or our greater community. Everyone is welcome to join us for chatting and conversation about the Femdom lifestyle, education and events.

FCC’s General Feedback Survey

If you’d like to be part of shaping a community that you want to see, complete our ANONYMOUS Feedback Survey to capture your thoughts and ideas!

Contact Us

For in-world assistance, click the ONLINE status indicator at the kiosk desk.

See you next time for our Holiday edition of the FCC newsletter.

The FCC Admins: 

• Ashe (Astarteh Mysterious) secondlife:///app/agent/238826a8-98d2-4709-a406-17bda96896e2/im

• Nalla (nallaxea) secondlife:///app/agent/c17dac6f-2b71-4bd7-b514-dd0694ea6ba2/im

• Beloved Valencia secondlife:///app/agent/7f8cf6eb-337a-4055-b944-397ba21f58be/im

• ღJαℳεε Sαȿȿαƒґαȿღ (JaMeeSassafras) secondlife:///app/agent/2c750c0a-0d38-469b-b192-18524816d867/about

https://linktr.ee/FCCinSL

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FCC is not-for-profit. Staff and contributors are volunteers. All donations are used to cover the continuation of annual events and investment in the future of the Femdom lifestyle in SL. Read more about FCC's policies here.

MELD 2024 SPOTLIGHT

INSPIRED ACTION

JaMee Sassafras sat down with MELD attendee Gabe (Zhantee Fallen) in a conversation about themselves and how the MELD event inspired clarity around neutral spaces within SL’s BDSM landscape.

JaMee: Hi Gabe. It's great of you to take the time and talk with me and consenting to doing this interview for the FCC Newsletter. I wanted to start off by asking if you would be willing to share a bit about yourself?

Gabe: Absolultely! I'm Gabe, AKA Zhantee Fallen. I've been involved in the BDSM scene in real life for about fifteen years on and off, and the SL scene occasionally in the past but more actively for a little over a year. I'm a non-binary switch - assigned female IRL and presenting as a femboy in SL. My interests are pretty diverse - I've done a lot of roleplay, including plenty of Gor, helped to run some sims, blogged, and generally bopped around SL for about sixteen years now.

JaMee: that is a wide range of interests and styles of engaging with the community in SL. Are there any of those in particular you found most interesting?

Gabe: Roleplay has always been my big passion. I love writing and being able to create stories with other people. I get a lot of joy out of bouncing ideas off of other folks and doing an improv 'yes and' in scenes to see what happens. There's fun to be had in every type of RP, though I've got a big soft spot for modern supernatural and scifi. For me, it's not just about the story, but the stylistic expression of writing and showing as much as you can in your posts, adding unique details that other people can build off of. There's nothing better than catching the same train of thought as another player and just riding it together as far as you can, until you're howling with laughter or sobbing at the words on your screen.

JaMee: I can completely relate to that, having spent many years in some great roleplay environments and scenes.

One of the things that brought you to mind for an interview for the newsletter, was a great resource you created called the "Neutral Space" BDSM locations in SL. Can you explain what that is?

Gabe: Totally! The "Neutral Spaces" card is an idea that came out of MELD. A lot of folks were discussing the importance of places in the BDSM community that didn't have rules that required people to behave in a certain way according to their D/s role and how sims that have those requirements can have negative impacts on the participants. I've always been pretty averse to that style of high protocol sim where people had to kneel and address others a certain way or weren't allowed to say no to requests. It was refreshing to hear that other people felt the same way. After talking to people there and realizing that there was a bigger interest in those sorts of spaces, I took up a personal initiative to compile a list of sims that I found which didn't have that kind of rule structure. The list would only include places where participation in a D/s dynamic was optional and up to the individual. It took a lot of TPing around, reading notecards, going to places I'd never normally visit, but eventually I got a pretty decent list together. That's the notecard. It's a work in progress but I'm proud of it.

JaMee: How do you feel this information can be a benefit for the FCC community and BDSM community as a whole?

Gabe: I think there's a lot of people who aren't fans of the rules-heavy sims and feel alienated from the community at large because so many spaces require that they set aside their own comfort and participate in a forced dynamic. There's also new folks who are terrified to step foot on sims that have such intense rules. I've been among those folks myself - I was beyond scared to visit a lot of femdom locations because of the rules!

Having a list of places that folks can go to and dip their toe into the community without being concerned about saying the right honorific, or where they can just relax and be themselves without respect to looking sufficiently dominant or submissive is so important. It helps us connect as humans, meet new people, have honest conversations, and really open up, without any overtones or restrictions

JaMee: I can very much relate to and understand that discomfort in some of those spaces. I applaud you for taking the time and doing this with such a thorough undertaking

What can we as a community do to help keep and create spaces like this, the "Neutral Spaces"? What are the important qualities to have to qualify as a "Neutral Space"?

Gabe: Thank you. It was a big surprise and relief that so many people agreed. I probably wouldn't have made the list if no one had responded positively. Instead, the response made me absolutely sure I had to do it. ^-^

To me, a place qualifies as a neutral space if it's a BDSM-focused location which doesn't require visitors to take part in a power dynamic as a condition of being there. That means no rules based around their chosen D/s role, like dominants must wear certain attire or subs must call all doms sir/ma'am. If a person chooses to partake in their personal D/s power dynamic with their partners, that's fine. They just don't have to with strangers.

In my view, we keep these spaces in two ways: support the ones that exist, and grow new ones. Visiting events at neutral locations supports their existence. Growing new ones can mean opening new places, but it can also mean reevaluating rules at existing locations. 

I think a lot of places see certain rules as a default. Like if you open a BDSM sim, you just automatically default to having that power dynamic be required because people expect it. But, what if that wasn't the case? I definitely encourage sims with those rules now to try to envision a version of their sim that is more neutral. Would that still support the ambiance you're going after? What would your members think? Discuss it. Give it serious thought. Stretch your mind a little. I think you might find that there's more flexibility in the way your sim is set up than you originally assumed.

Gabe: (I should note for the record that I am having this Very Serious Discussion while wearing a frog onesie, lol)

JaMee: I love that answer and especially the suggestion to encourage conversation, explore alternatives, and expand the ideas of what D/s and BDSM spaces look like and conduct the everyday life within those spaces

Gabe: I don't usually hang around the sims that aren't neutral spaces, because I assume they don't really want me there since I opt out of power dynamics with strangers, but I have had some positive visits in the past, even while politely not following certain rules. ;)

JaMee: For complete transparency, I am dressed up as Harley Quinn during this very serious conversation. Which shows the importance of connecting to one another, not as a role, but as people. Appearance and presentation, the external trappings of D/s and BDSM have low value. We can have deep conversation and discussion while also expressing ourselves in a wide range of unique ways

Gabe: Exactly! Whether we're a frog or a villain, a dom or a sub, we're all people.

JaMee: Thank you Gabe for taking the time to do this. And for the time you took to create the "Neutral Spaces" list. I feel that this will be a great asset to the community.

Gabe: Thank you! All I need now is a way to distribute it. At the moment it just lives in my inventory and the inventories of a few folks I've shared it with.

JaMee: It's going to be included in the newsletter because we want to share a great resource with as many people as we can.

For a copy of Gabe's notecard '"Neutral Space" BDSM Locations in SL' visit the FCC Kiosk or ask Gabe!

July 2024 Edition

FCC Quarterly Community Newsletter

Introduction

The summer is off to a sizzling start at FCC. Find out what juicy treats we have cooking this quarter for the community– from exciting events to volunteer opportunities. It's time to feed our kinky appetites!

Fetish Fantasy, A Night of Kinky Revelry

FetishFantasy is a quarterly fundraising event– a hands-on, interactive kinky adventure in partnership with our FCC Affiliates. 

Summer Pony Play Workshop at Le Salon

Whether you were a seasoned owner or new to the world of ponyplay, this workshop was fun and informative. Thank you to Lady Cythe and Le Salon for hosting such a wonderful event. Your donations are appreciated! 

Did you miss out on this event? You’ll have another opportunity to catch a pony ride (or give one!) at The MELD.

Meanwhile, see what you missed at our Flickr.

FetishFantasy 2024: That’s A Wrap!

Our first ever FetishFantasy fundraising season was a success. Thanks to the generosity of the community, we’ve raised approximately $50,000L for MELD2024! From all of us at FCC, thank you. Your donations make a difference. 

FCC would like to extend a special heartfelt THANK YOU to each of the venues who hosted a FetishFantasy event this year– Oubliette, The Realm Femdom, and Le Salon. Your contributions play a vital role in helping us achieve our mission and make a positive impact in the community. We truly appreciate your commitment and partnership.

FCC is not-for-profit. Staff and contributors are volunteers. All donations are used to cover the continuation of annual events and investment in the future of the Femdom lifestyle in SL. Read more about FCC's policies here.

Happy 21st Birthday, SecondLife!

“Elemental Wonders: A Virtual Odyssey”

Femdom Community Connections (FCC) celebrated Second Life's 21st Birthday with a mesmerizing digital display featuring the 12 unique elements that shape our world. Guests experienced the magic of this milestone birthday as they explored the artistic essence and wonder of the elements in our virtual realm. 

We hope you were able to grab the free FCC gift while you were there and took the opportunity to visit several of our Affiliates at their exhibits.

See more pictures at FCC's Flickr.

MELD2024 Roadshow: Femdom Mythbusters

Whet your appetite for the MELD by catching the roadshow!

Are you curious about female dominance in relationships but unsure what’s fact and what’s fiction? Join us for an enlightening Q&A session with a panel of Dominant Women where we’ll bust myths and uncover the truths about female dominance. We’ll explore the realities of female-led dynamics, debunk common misconceptions, and provide a supportive space for open dialogue. 

Whether you’re new to the concept or looking to deepen your understanding, this discussion will offer valuable insights and practical perspectives. Bring your questions and don’t miss this opportunity to learn, share, and challenge the stereotypes surrounding female dominance in relationships.

In our effort to build bridges into the wider kinky community, we’ll be hosting several of these events at different Femdom-friendly venues leading up to the MELD. Keep an eye on FCC group notices to catch a roadshow on a grid near you!

The MELD 2024

The Countdown Begins 

We are less than 60 days out from the MELD! Your community volunteers have been hard at work putting together an event that we want you to enjoy even more than last year. Based on your feedback, we have so much more for you to experience and explore this year– more event days, more shopping, more educational and social experiences, and MORE KINK! 

Take a peek at the MELD Events Calendar to see what’s in store for you.

There will be many FREE events at the MELD this year, but for your ALL ACCESS pass join The MELD Femdom Convention group in-world ($250L).

MELD2024 Podcast: Behind the Mask

👉👉🏾 MELD 2024 Podcast.mp3 👈👈🏾

(Click to listen - 25min)

Several of the Ladies at FCC sat down with Blue Fox to share background about themselves, FCC, and the MELD. Have a listen and get a peek Behind the Mask.

A million thanks to Blue Fox of Oubliette for facilitating such a fun conversation. We had a blast!

You can also find the audio in the About section of the MELD website.

Booking Confirmations Are On The Way! 

For MELD facilitators, performers, sponsors, and vendors, you should be receiving your booking confirmation with details such as your scheduled date/time as well as other useful information. If you’ve signed up to participate before Jul 23 and you haven’t received your confirmation by Aug 5, please contact one of the team members below:

Outreach Lead Ashe Mountaingale (Astarteh Mysterious) 

Events Scheduler Beloved Valencia

Entertainment Manager Talya Moleno 

Be Part of THE Femdom Event of the Year

Yes, there is still time to get involved at the MELD! Provide Your Event Details by completing a sign-up form. Whether you are an Affiliate interested in hosting one of your existing events at the MELD or you are a community member who is interested in sharing your knowledge and talent, the form will be available until Sept 1. 

Volunteers Wanted

Not interested in hosting your own event but still want to get involved? There are several ways you can be part of the MELD. Check out our volunteer opportunities below:

Ponies, Ponies Everywhere

Experienced or curious, volunteer at the MELD as a pony taxi to cart attendees to their destination. We’ll help get you up to speed so you’re trotting in no time. 

More of a show pony? Then put on a display of grace and beauty at the MELD Pony Show by joining this event.

SL-to-RL Play Party Performer

Be part of this fundraising event that secures the MELD for the future. Have your limits respected as you volunteer yourself to the crowd for a curated night of kinky debauchery to help raise Ls and eyebrows. Interested established D/s dynamics to the front of the line!

Become An Ambassador

Introduce presenters and announce what’s coming up next at the MELD. We’ll provide everything you need for this role. A truly simple way to support the event. Script provided.

To learn more about any of the above volunteer opportunities, contact Beloved Valencia.

Ways to Support The MELD

Events like this are rarely a success without getting the word out, so share with your staff and community. Resources are provided at the FCC Kiosk in-world.

Resource Row offers:

• Profile Pick Notecard - We’re all profile pervs in SL and it couldn’t be easier to spread the word! This notecard includes a MELD graphic, details, and links that you can copy & paste directly into your profile. 

• Group Joiners - Hang a group joiner at your location. On-click, this board delivers a group join link & the MELD Invitation HUD. Two design options available.

• The MELD Invitation HUD - This is a wearable and rezzable item with information about all things MELD 2024 in one place! Plan, host, build, play! 

• Billboards - Hang a large billboard. Each billboard works just like a MELD group joiner, delivering a group join link & the MELD Invite HUD when clicked.

• MELD textures to create your own advertising!

For further information about The MELD 2024, join the Femdom Community Connections group in-world. 

FCC Welcomes New Affiliates!

We would like to welcome to FCC:

Femdom-Friendly BDSM Venues

• Tres Naughty

• Erato

Stores

• Naughty Bits

Please plan a visit and welcome them to our Affiliate community! 

Conclusion

The summer season continues to bring the heat at FCC as we look towards Fall. We are excited to unveil the events your fellow community members have helped bring to life, showcasing the Femdom community. We are inspired by the volunteerism, inclusion, and collaboration found within our community. FCC is fortified in its pursuit of building bridges towards one another in BDSM. Join us at the MELD and be part of a community that you want to see!

FCC’s Open House, Saturday’s at 3:30pm SLT

Each Saturday, you can find FCC Administrators and Ambassadors at the in-world Kiosk to answer any questions about the network or our greater community. Everyone is welcome to join us for chatting and conversation about the Femdom lifestyle, education and events.

FCC’s 2023 Financial Report

FCC’s 2023 Financial Report is always available at the FCC Kiosk in-world! Pick up your copy at the Kiosk to stay informed on how your generosity and donations are put to use at FCC.

FCC is not-for-profit. Staff and contributors are volunteers. All donations are used to cover the continuation of annual events and investment in the future of Femdom in SL. Read more about FCC's policies here.

FCC’s General Feedback Survey

Be part of shaping a community that you want to see! Complete our ANONYMOUS Feedback Survey to capture your thoughts and ideas!

Contact Us

For in-world assistance, click the ONLINE status indicator at the kiosk desk.

See you in September for The MELD!

The FCC Admins: 

• Ashe (Astarteh Mysterious) secondlife:///app/agent/238826a8-98d2-4709-a406-17bda96896e2/im

• Nalla (nallaxea) secondlife:///app/agent/c17dac6f-2b71-4bd7-b514-dd0694ea6ba2/im

• Beloved Valencia secondlife:///app/agent/7f8cf6eb-337a-4055-b944-397ba21f58be/im

• ღJαℳεε Sαȿȿαƒґαȿღ (JaMeeSassafras) secondlife:///app/agent/2c750c0a-0d38-469b-b192-18524816d867/about

https://linktr.ee/FCCinSL

♕