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FCC Quarterly Community Newsletter

Introduction

As winter’s chill blankets our days and festive lights brighten our nights, we embrace the magic of the season! It’s a time for connection, celebration, and looking ahead with excitement. In this edition, we share highlights from our community and updates to inspire and energize us as we step into a new year together!


Happy New Year from Femdom Community Connections



MELD Community Center Launches!

FCC has had an eventful final quarter of 2024! Inspired by feedback from our community following the MELD Annual Femdom Convention in September, we’re excited to announce the launch of the MELD Community Center (MCC).


MCC is a compact extension of the annual MELD event that will be available year-round and open-to-all. It is a collaborative space where Femdom and Femdom-friendly affiliates as well as individual community members can host educational and social events with the goal of promoting the community and growing and supporting members in their lifestyle journey–building up individuals, relationships, and community. In the month of January, stop by FCC’s Open House on Saturday’s at 3:30 pm SLT for Q&A sessions about the MELD Community Center or direct your questions to any FCC Admin or Ambassador.


We welcome facilitators who can present information responsibly and entertainers who want to share their talent.

→ Host Your Event https://bit.ly/MCC-Host


Access the MELD Community center via the FCC 2025 Information Kiosk in-world using the glass double-doors at the rear of the building.


MCC Grand Opening Celebration with DJ Talya


  • Join us Sunday, January 12th at 12 pm SLT for a dance party on ice with DJ Talya Moleno at the MELD Community Center.

  • Coming Sunday, January 19th at 12 pm SLT, Kaige Diavolo from The Cuckolding Wife presents A Practical Introduction to Erotic Cuckolding.

  • The MCC will be hosting regular Inventory Cleaning parties and so much more!


Make sure you’re a member of the Femdom Community Connection group so you receive notices as events are scheduled.


FCC Information Kiosk Has Moved!


The FCC in-world advertising kiosk has been relocated to adult land. Affiliates must now update their FCC group joiners which provide the new FCC 2025 Kiosk Landmark. Updated group joiners can be obtained through the FCC Smartphone HUD by clicking the FCC button and selecting “Get Joiner.”


At the new location, you’ll find the FCC 2024 Financial Report, along with lifestyle resources, including the FCC Smartphone HUD and access to the MELD Community Center.


Make sure to get your new FCC 2025 Kiosk landmark from the latest FCC Smartphone HUD.


FCC Smartphone HUD Updates


FCC Group Joiners Available via the HUD!

Stay connected by grabbing an updated FCC group joiner or the 2025 Kiosk landmark directly from your HUD. Easily access enrollment details and enjoy the same great resources, including the FCC Community Calendar, policies, and contact information. Simply click the FCC button on the Smartphone HUD to explore all available FCC resources.


New! FCC HUD Help Videos 

Unpack and explore features of the HUD in two short help videos now available via the Help notecard in the HUD or from the FCC website (https://fccinsl.wixsite.com/fccinsl/fcc-hud).


Our First MELD 2025 Diamond Sponsor!


A huge thank you to our First Diamond Sponsor, Tres Naughty! We’re thrilled to have you on board as our first Diamond Sponsor of the MELD 2025 season and can’t wait for your exciting fundraiser event (see below). Your generosity truly makes a difference in our community.


SAVE THE DATE: Jail & Bail Fundraiser!

Saturday, February 15, 4-6 pm SLT

Get ready to lock up the fun or bail out your favorite "criminal" at Tres Naughty’s Jail & Bail fundraiser! The Jail & Bail is a fun fundraising event where community members can "arrest" others and "bail" them out for donations. Have someone "arrested" for fun charges like "being a sassy brat" or "making terrible coffee." Once jailed, their friends and admirers can pay to bail them out—or pay extra to keep them in longer!


Submissives might have to beg or offer playful promises for their release, while Dominants could find themselves locked up with their freedom hanging on the generosity (or mischief) of others. It’s all in good fun, with a set time limit for each "sentence."


All funds raised will support MELD 2025, so come join the excitement and make a difference! For details, watch FCC group notices or check our events calendar.


MELD 2025 Diamond Sponsorship


Throughout the year, FCC invites our affiliated venues to host fundraising events in support of The MELD Annual Femdom Convention. In 2024, participating venues raised over L$50,000. FCC Affiliates who host a fundraising event earn the Diamond Sponsor designation, which is displayed at your venue's ad board in the FCC in-world advertising kiosk and in the FCC Smartphone HUD. Only three Diamond Sponsorship positions are available each year, and two spots remain open. If you're interested in having your venue host a fundraising event for MELD 2025, please reach out to a member of FCC's administration team (contact details below).


If you’re interested in being on the team that helps shape the next MELD annual event, make sure you're a member of the Femdom Community Connections inworld group. Keep an eye on group notices for MELD Committee invitations, which will be sent out in mid to late Spring 2025.


Community Growth, FCC Welcomes New Affiliates!

We would like to welcome to FCC:


Femdom-Friendly BDSM Venues

  • Romance in the Clouds at Anaconda Estates

  • The Classy Tease & Dark Seductions Lounge

  • The Forum


Welcome to our community network


Every Affiliate enriches the tapestry of our kinky network. The network has a total of 42 affiliates; 16 femdom venues, 17 femdom-friendly venues and 9 stores. 


FCC Policy Updates

Our policy updates are designed to adapt to the evolving landscape of Second Life and the needs of our lifestyle community network. The latest updates include new enrollment criteria for venues seeking to join the FCC network, as well as clarifications in the conflict resolution section, finance and sustainability. The most significant impact for affiliated venue owners is that, to maintain active advertising within the FCC network, venues are required to HOST AT LEAST ONE FEMDOM-FRIENDLY EVENT PER MONTH. You can review these policy updates here (https://bit.ly/FCC-Policy). Updates are highlighted in yellow.


Both the FCC Policies and the enrollment criteria notecard (FCC - Become An Affiliate) are available via the FCC Smartphone HUD.


Open House, Saturday’s at 3:30pm SLT

Join us every Saturday at the MELD Community Center for FCC’s Open House. FCC Administrators and Ambassadors will be on hand to answer any questions you have about our network or the wider community. Everyone is welcome to participate in casual conversations about the Femdom lifestyle, education, and upcoming events. This January, come by during Open House to ask questions or share your ideas for the newly launched MELD Community Center.


Conclusion

This holiday season brought us together to celebrate at community events, from Halloween through Christmas. As the leaves fell and frost covered the ground, many of us crossed paths across the grid, enjoying a variety of incredible lifestyle gatherings.


As we wrap up this quarter and welcome in a new year, we want to extend our heartfelt gratitude for your continued support. Your participation is essential in helping us provide resources that empower and enrich the Femdom community in Second Life. To our affiliates, members, and volunteers: thank you. FCC wishes you a joyful and fulfilling 2025!


Supporting FCC

We deeply appreciate your continued support of Femdom Community Connections and The MELD Femdom Convention. Your participation in our events, volunteering of time/talent and Linden donations play a crucial role in keeping the Femdom lifestyle vibrant and thriving in Second Life. Donations are always welcome at the FCC Kiosk or through Bruce, the FCC bot. You can also support FCC by donating your premium account prim allotment, which helps sustain the Kiosk and, now, the MELD Community Center.


General Feedback Survey

If you’d like to be part of shaping a community that you want to see, complete our ANONYMOUS Feedback Survey to capture your thoughts and ideas!


Contact Us

For in-world assistance, click the ONLINE status indicator at the kiosk desk. Or send an instant message to Honey Sparrow and ask any question. She's is now AI-equipped and better able to answer specific questions.


Have a cozy winter season. See you next time for the Spring edition of the FCC newsletter.


The FCC Admins: 

 

  • Ashe Mountaingale (Astarteh Mysterious) secondlife:///app/agent/238826a8-98d2-4709-a406-17bda96896e2/im

  • Nalla Brewster (nallaxea) secondlife:///app/agent/c17dac6f-2b71-4bd7-b514-dd0694ea6ba2/im

  • Beloved Valencia secondlife:///app/agent/7f8cf6eb-337a-4055-b944-397ba21f58be/im

  • ღJαℳεε Sαȿȿαƒґαȿღ (JaMeeSassafras Fairlander) secondlife:///app/agent/2c750c0a-0d38-469b-b192-18524816d867/about




FCC is not-for-profit. Staff and contributors are volunteers. All donations are used to cover the continuation of annual events and investment in the future of the Femdom lifestyle in SL. Read more about FCC's policies here.



FCC Quarterly Community Newsletter

Introduction

As the leaves transform into warm shades and the air takes on a refreshing crispness, we welcome the vibrant season of fall! It’s a time for reflection, gratitude, and coming together. In this edition, we celebrate our community spirit and share highlights from an exciting third quarter below!


Second Annual MELD Femdom Convention


The Second Annual MELD FemDom Convention was an even bigger success this year! Spanning ten days and featuring over 55 events, it offered an incredible lineup.



Attendees enjoyed a bustling shopping area with 25+ vendors, many of whom provided exclusive items and complimentary gifts, along with performances by over 30 talented community members, including live singers, DJs, facilitators & hosts.



The convention also featured educational workshops and valuable resources, creating a space where the community could come together to celebrate, learn, and showcase the essence of female dominance.


For more pictures of the event, visit our Flickr. Also, be sure to check out the event brochure online!


The MELD is brought to you by FCC, its community volunteers & allies. Without the generous support of time, energy and donations this event would not be possible. FCC is deeply grateful for our community's participation–a showcase of skills and talent that helps bring this event to life–for the community, by the community.



MELD 2024 Feedback Results

FCC appreciates everyone who has taken the time to provide feedback about their experience at The MELD. It has been overwhelmingly supportive–including the feedback that alerted us to areas where we can improve. We continue to learn so much from the community while hosting this event each year. Our goal is to continue to refine The MELD and make it an event where YOU feel represented. 


Here is a snapshot of the feedback responses for MELD 2024. 


Thank you MELD Diamond Sponsors!

Again, we want to extend our gratitude to venues who sponsored fundraising events for The MELD and/or participated in creating its success.


  • Oubliette’s Freak Show in February was filled with sex-positive perverts flying their freak flags!

  • The Realm -Femdom- sponsored the Spring Swing in April’s season of showers and made it rain!

  • Le Salon sponsored a Summer Pony Play workshop that was fun and informative!


Interested in becoming a 

MELD 2025 Diamond Sponsor?


During the year, FCC invites our community to host several fundraising events benefiting the MELD annual femdom convention. In 2024, participating venues raised over L$50,000. 


Some benefits for becoming a MELD Diamond Sponsor include:

    - Participate at next year's annual event with the highest level of visibility through

  • MELD 2025 event advertising (largest ad boards with Diamond Sponsor designation)

  • MELD 2025 event brochure positioning (2 full-page advertisements in online and inworld brochures)

  • MELD 2025 event voice announcements


    - All 2025 MELD sponsorship fees are waived 

Your venue hosts any event at MELD 2025 and automatically receives sponsorship status for free 

  • Where most venue's sign-up to host an event and pay to have their event sponsored, your venue pays nothing.

  • Your venue brings any existing event from your venue to MELD 2025 and receives sponsorship status for free 

  • Where most venue's sign-up to host an event and pay to have their event sponsored, your venue pays nothing.

        

    - FCC Affiliates: receive Diamond Sponsor designation at your venue's ad board at the FCC inworld advertising kiosk. For more information on becoming an FCC affiliate, contact an FCC Admin (below).


Only 3 Diamond Sponsorship positions are available. If you are interested in having your venue host a Fetish Fantasy fundraising event for MELD 2025, contact a member of FCC's administration team (below). 


Get Involved

If you would like to be a part of shaping MELD 2025, make sure you’re a member of the inworld group Femdom Community Connections. Keep an eye on group notices for your MELD Committee invites which happen mid/late Spring 2025. 


MELD 2024 SPOTLIGHT


JaMee Sassafras sat down with MELD attendee Gabe (Zhantee Fallen) in a conversation about themselves and how the event inspired clarity around 'neutral spaces' within SL’s BDSM landscape.


Read the full interview here



Community Growth, FCC Welcomes New Affiliates!

We would like to welcome to FCC:


Femdom Venues

  • House of Maharani

  • The Cuckolding Wife


Femdom-Friendly BDSM Venues

  • Angel Noir

  • BDSM Lifestyle

  • House Blackwood


Stores

  • Alternating Current


Each Affiliate further enriches the tapestry of the kinky network. Please plan a visit and welcome them to our Affiliate community


Conclusion

This season we witnessed our community embrace a model of inclusion and collaboration at The MELD. At FCC, we are dedicated to continued growth in our service to the community. As part of this journey, we strive to uphold our vision to provide the Femdom Community a group to advertise social and educational events, and resources–to grow and support members in their lifestyle journey–building up individuals, relationships, the community and its venues. 


As we close out this quarter, we wish to offer our deepest gratitude for your continued support. Your participation is vital in helping us provide this resource and nurture the Femdom community. To our affiliates, members, and volunteers: We thank you!


FCC’s Open House, Saturday’s at 3:30pm SLT

On Saturday’s, you can find FCC Administrators and Ambassadors at the in-world Kiosk to answer any questions about the network or our greater community. Everyone is welcome to join us for chatting and conversation about the Femdom lifestyle, education and events.


FCC’s General Feedback Survey

If you’d like to be part of shaping a community that you want to see, complete our ANONYMOUS Feedback Survey to capture your thoughts and ideas!


Contact Us

For in-world assistance, click the ONLINE status indicator at the kiosk desk.


See you next time for our Holiday edition of the FCC newsletter.


The FCC Admins: 

 

  • Ashe (Astarteh Mysterious) secondlife:///app/agent/238826a8-98d2-4709-a406-17bda96896e2/im

  • Nalla (nallaxea) secondlife:///app/agent/c17dac6f-2b71-4bd7-b514-dd0694ea6ba2/im

  • Beloved Valencia secondlife:///app/agent/7f8cf6eb-337a-4055-b944-397ba21f58be/im

  • ღJαℳεε Sαȿȿαƒґαȿღ (JaMeeSassafras) secondlife:///app/agent/2c750c0a-0d38-469b-b192-18524816d867/about




FCC is not-for-profit. Staff and contributors are volunteers. All donations are used to cover the continuation of annual events and investment in the future of the Femdom lifestyle in SL. Read more about FCC's policies here.



INSPIRED ACTION

JaMee Sassafras sat down with MELD attendee Gabe (Zhantee Fallen) in a conversation about themselves and how the MELD event inspired clarity around neutral spaces within SL’s BDSM landscape.


JaMee: Hi Gabe. It's great of you to take the time and talk with me and consenting to doing this interview for the FCC Newsletter. I wanted to start off by asking if you would be willing to share a bit about yourself?


Gabe: Absolultely! I'm Gabe, AKA Zhantee Fallen. I've been involved in the BDSM scene in real life for about fifteen years on and off, and the SL scene occasionally in the past but more actively for a little over a year. I'm a non-binary switch - assigned female IRL and presenting as a femboy in SL. My interests are pretty diverse - I've done a lot of roleplay, including plenty of Gor, helped to run some sims, blogged, and generally bopped around SL for about sixteen years now.


JaMee: that is a wide range of interests and styles of engaging with the community in SL. Are there any of those in particular you found most interesting?


Gabe: Roleplay has always been my big passion. I love writing and being able to create stories with other people. I get a lot of joy out of bouncing ideas off of other folks and doing an improv 'yes and' in scenes to see what happens. There's fun to be had in every type of RP, though I've got a big soft spot for modern supernatural and scifi. For me, it's not just about the story, but the stylistic expression of writing and showing as much as you can in your posts, adding unique details that other people can build off of. There's nothing better than catching the same train of thought as another player and just riding it together as far as you can, until you're howling with laughter or sobbing at the words on your screen.


JaMee: I can completely relate to that, having spent many years in some great roleplay environments and scenes.


One of the things that brought you to mind for an interview for the newsletter, was a great resource you created called the "Neutral Space" BDSM locations in SL. Can you explain what that is?


Gabe: Totally! The "Neutral Spaces" card is an idea that came out of MELD. A lot of folks were discussing the importance of places in the BDSM community that didn't have rules that required people to behave in a certain way according to their D/s role and how sims that have those requirements can have negative impacts on the participants. I've always been pretty averse to that style of high protocol sim where people had to kneel and address others a certain way or weren't allowed to say no to requests. It was refreshing to hear that other people felt the same way. After talking to people there and realizing that there was a bigger interest in those sorts of spaces, I took up a personal initiative to compile a list of sims that I found which didn't have that kind of rule structure. The list would only include places where participation in a D/s dynamic was optional and up to the individual. It took a lot of TPing around, reading notecards, going to places I'd never normally visit, but eventually I got a pretty decent list together. That's the notecard. It's a work in progress but I'm proud of it.


JaMee: How do you feel this information can be a benefit for the FCC community and BDSM community as a whole?


Gabe: I think there's a lot of people who aren't fans of the rules-heavy sims and feel alienated from the community at large because so many spaces require that they set aside their own comfort and participate in a forced dynamic. There's also new folks who are terrified to step foot on sims that have such intense rules. I've been among those folks myself - I was beyond scared to visit a lot of femdom locations because of the rules!


Having a list of places that folks can go to and dip their toe into the community without being concerned about saying the right honorific, or where they can just relax and be themselves without respect to looking sufficiently dominant or submissive is so important. It helps us connect as humans, meet new people, have honest conversations, and really open up, without any overtones or restrictions


JaMee: I can very much relate to and understand that discomfort in some of those spaces. I applaud you for taking the time and doing this with such a thorough undertaking


What can we as a community do to help keep and create spaces like this, the "Neutral Spaces"? What are the important qualities to have to qualify as a "Neutral Space"?


Gabe: Thank you. It was a big surprise and relief that so many people agreed. I probably wouldn't have made the list if no one had responded positively. Instead, the response made me absolutely sure I had to do it. ^-^


To me, a place qualifies as a neutral space if it's a BDSM-focused location which doesn't require visitors to take part in a power dynamic as a condition of being there. That means no rules based around their chosen D/s role, like dominants must wear certain attire or subs must call all doms sir/ma'am. If a person chooses to partake in their personal D/s power dynamic with their partners, that's fine. They just don't have to with strangers.


In my view, we keep these spaces in two ways: support the ones that exist, and grow new ones. Visiting events at neutral locations supports their existence. Growing new ones can mean opening new places, but it can also mean reevaluating rules at existing locations. 


I think a lot of places see certain rules as a default. Like if you open a BDSM sim, you just automatically default to having that power dynamic be required because people expect it. But, what if that wasn't the case? I definitely encourage sims with those rules now to try to envision a version of their sim that is more neutral. Would that still support the ambiance you're going after? What would your members think? Discuss it. Give it serious thought. Stretch your mind a little. I think you might find that there's more flexibility in the way your sim is set up than you originally assumed.


Gabe: (I should note for the record that I am having this Very Serious Discussion while wearing a frog onesie, lol)


JaMee: I love that answer and especially the suggestion to encourage conversation, explore alternatives, and expand the ideas of what D/s and BDSM spaces look like and conduct the everyday life within those spaces


Gabe: I don't usually hang around the sims that aren't neutral spaces, because I assume they don't really want me there since I opt out of power dynamics with strangers, but I have had some positive visits in the past, even while politely not following certain rules. ;)


JaMee: For complete transparency, I am dressed up as Harley Quinn during this very serious conversation. Which shows the importance of connecting to one another, not as a role, but as people. Appearance and presentation, the external trappings of D/s and BDSM have low value. We can have deep conversation and discussion while also expressing ourselves in a wide range of unique ways


Gabe: Exactly! Whether we're a frog or a villain, a dom or a sub, we're all people.


JaMee: Thank you Gabe for taking the time to do this. And for the time you took to create the "Neutral Spaces" list. I feel that this will be a great asset to the community.


Gabe: Thank you! All I need now is a way to distribute it. At the moment it just lives in my inventory and the inventories of a few folks I've shared it with.


JaMee: It's going to be included in the newsletter because we want to share a great resource with as many people as we can.


For a copy of Gabe's notecard '"Neutral Space" BDSM Locations in SL' visit the FCC Kiosk or ask Gabe!




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